Unwanted and distressing thoughts

Many unwanted thoughts that occur during pregnancy and the postpartum period are experienced by people both with and without anxiety. However, when you have anxiety, you may get more distressed by these thoughts, dwell on them and feel you have little control over them.

These unwanted thoughts can be distressing and often involve unpleasant scenarios or images about harm coming to you or your baby. Although that can feel alarming, they are not unusual; nearly half of new parents have intrusive thoughts about harming their child. It’s important to remember that thoughts are not a reflection of who you are or what will happen; they are simply thoughts.

However, many parents do not tell anyone how they are feeling as they are worried others might judge them, or that social services might take their baby away. Some may avoid telling others because they think they will be prescribed medication that might put their baby at risk. These fears are understandable, but they are not true. If you find yourself struggling with unwanted or distressing thoughts, it’s important to talk to a healthcare professional (such as your Midwife, Health Visitor, or GP), as they will be able to help you feel better and direct you to support. This means finding a treatment and support that is safe and that you feel happy with.